A.S. Face 0675: Chris Becker

We are facing a hardship with our family. My husband has been sick since May of 2011. He has been to the ER 13 times, hospitalized 28 times, and was at the Mayo Clinic for 2 weeks. He has been diagnosed with Ankylosing Spondytis Arthritis,Fibromyalgia, IBS, Depression/Anxiety, Sphincter of Oddi dysfunction, memory fog, degenerative disc disease, and chronic pain and fatigue syndrome. He has had operations, procedures, and medication which are not helping. This past March, he resigned from his company, 1-800-Got-Junk?, that he has been with for a little over 10 years due to his health. With him doing this, it took away our higher salary and a company vehicle.

He currently uses a walking cane and has a hospital bed for home.

We have a son who is 7 years old and is in first grade at Immanuel Lutheran in Crystal Lake. He has sensory processing disorder for 3 years. Immanuel has been a blessing to us as he is doing well and works with him. Another blessing being he is learning about our Savior Jesus. The school has been gracious to us and giving us a discount off tuition. We continue to take him to Milestones in Crystal Lake three times a week for additional work with his sensory processing disorder. He is also going to a faith based counseling to help with his hurting. The hurt of his daddy sick and mommy always gone working. We will do whatever it takes for him to have a normal 7 year old life.

I work a full-time job Monday-Friday and was going to school to become my dream job of a nurse. Now, I continue to work my full-time job but stopped going to school. I got a second job which I work Saturday and Sunday too.

We have applied for social security disability for my husband and it could take months to years to get it approved. My husband would rather work for his money but he just cannot work.

We always lived within our means and my income I bring home each month is still short each month. We even did a loan modification and cut back more on bills. We might still lose our home.

Our credit cards are maxed; we used a loan to help us out for a month, and try to get cash advanced.

We have checked resources with McHenry County and they cannot help with limited funds.

We are trying so hard to get my husband to be healthy, my son to overcome his disorder. There is a lot of stress, frustration, and lack of hope at home.

We continue to try and be positive. We pray for all suffering with AS and other issues.

Thank you, Maryann & Chris Becker

Illinois United States of America


5 Responses to “A.S. Face 0675: Chris Becker”

  1. And we’ll pray for you and with Maryann and Chris. The Lord is close to the broken hearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit. Are you not more important than the lillies of the field? Be patient Maryann. let God do his thing. When AS “blows up” initially, it can take awhile to find the right medicine to work. That’s why all the TNFs (Enbrel, Humira, ect.) all work a little differently than each other. When one doesn’t work, it’s good odds that another will. And unfortunately, the Rhuemys have patience and like to “try one for months before trying another” and then wait some more. When mine blew up years ago…it seemed like it took a couple years before we “dialed up” the dosage on some and tried some more to find the right “cocktail” that worked…even then it seemed it took awhile for the AS to calm down. you’re not at the “end of possibilities” yet, and that in itself is hope.

    I would think that a “diagnosis” from such a prestigious institution as the Mayo Clinic, along with 13 ER visits, would go a long way to convice Social Security of the need for disability. I find Hope in all that misery.

    Don’t worry about your son.. I believe that to the contrary, the kids of AS’ers become better adults because of living with AS’ers. They learn compassion, caring, patience, understanding…all the good traits that Jesus tries to teach us in the Bible…is that not so? Aren’t all our lives shaped by God for a purpose? Is that not hope in itself?

    I know it is easy for me to coucil patience and hope from a distance away from the fray, but it is the way. I found my favorite verse in a motel room a long time ago. It’s Romans 5.3. “Suffering produces endurance, and endurance produces character, and character produces Hope, and hope does not disappoint us.” When all this settles down in awhile, Chris will find his special gift that God gave to us all, he’ll use AS to motivate him, and he’ll shine with light again.

  2. Dear Chris,
    Thank you so much for sharing your story with us.
    Sincerely Cookie

  3. I too agree that the social security disability should not be a problem with all he has been through. What a touching story. We are all here for you if only to listen and pray with you. We are all pretty good at that 🙂

  4. I am so sorry that you are going through this. It sounds like you and your husband are in a similar position to me and my hubby, except that I am the one with the health problems. It has been such a terrible struggle. I am awaiting a hearing for social security disability, as I am unable to work either. Have had more hospitalizations than I can count. I pray that things begin looking up for you soon. I can imagine that it is not easy having a sick spouse. But your husband is very lucky to have you by his side.

  5. Derek, thank you for the encouragement. I too look to the Lord, #480. I was up reading some of the testimonies as I had some pain that finally is relenting a bit. Praying for you both as well. The Lord has HIS hand upon you and uses all of us through these trials for a purpose. Maryann and Chris. I am with you believing that HE uses all things to work together for our good somehow. Blessings be upon you both. Stephanie

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